Love language is a unique way of expressing and receiving love for individuals. Understanding your love language can help improve communication, deepen relationships, and strengthen emotional connections.
Initially, I would to know your Love Language ?
The Five Love Language includes,
Quality time
Act of Service
Word of Affirmation
Receiving gifts
Physical touch
I feel these two simple question would be sufficient to understand your’s,
What makes you feel good ?
What makes you feel unkind?
Would you be able to give me your answers to those two questions? “The way you feel” is the best answer to understand yours. It is very personal, and one’s Love Language must not be judgemental. (It is my personal feeling)
Of course, I have two main, usually i love to have with my husband, which are “Words of affirmation” and “quality time“. The way how i feel with these two is wordless. I feel worthy in someone’s world. That feeling is wordless. Now as a mom of a little baby boy, I would rather hear “how amazing I am”. As well, “Act of service” is also worthy as a new mom. My husband’s good helping hand in making formula, helping diaper changing, burning midnight oil together on behalf of our baby boy is also admirable. “Act of service” I fall in love indeed!
And we both have time together in dinner. Almost every single day while having dinner, it is my habit to ask, “How about the dinner darling?”. I am waiting for his usual response “The good healing kiss” that makes me feel good.
My husband’s will be the same. I could see my husband’s glittering eyes when we have “quality time” for each other.
But, the surprising thing is that experience and maturity have made a considerable change to our love language. A young girl would love to have gifts plus physical touch while a woman who has spent a significant time in her life with parenting would love to have “words of affirmation” as her love language. This might not be accurate with every single woman, but most would fall in love with it.
So i feel like, time has mixed and fixed our love language in a interesting way.
How about yours? I am saying again and again, that one’s way must not be judgemental.
