How to Handle Anger with My One-Year-Old
Before become a mother I never thought that such a small human soul could have such big emotions. But here I am, learning every day that my one-year-old feels frustration, anger, and disappointment just like adults do—only without the words to explain it.
When I caught his anger for the first time I was bit overwhelmed and unsure of what to do. Over time, I’ve learned that this anger isn’t bad behavior at all—it’s a way of communication. I watched a few video and clearly came to a conclusion that it is not a bad behavior at all, but he is unable to handle his emotions. He is really in a emotional struggle.
The first thing I try to do is stay calm. I know it is hard and we easily get frustrated, but the only possible and best thing to settle him down is keep calm. My baby looks to me for emotional cues, and if I react with frustration, it only makes things worse. My loud voice or sudden facial expressions are more than enough him to understand my “change” so, I am very careful not to behave like that.
So sometimes I make fun faces and press him to me with a good deep breath.
Instead of saying “no” all the time, I try gentle redirection—offering a different toy or changing the environment. I also use simple, soothing words like, “I know you’re upset. Mama is here.” but I know he can not understand my mere words. What he can clearly see is my facial expressions, so I do that way very carefully.
His favorite toys including his flip-flap book and motor vehicle book are the best. Apart from that his favorite “My Bonnie lies over the ocean” and “Oh! My Darling Clemantine” are his super songs, these two little pieces have an enormous power to stop his crying. I have noticed his favorites and keep in my mind safely, for my safe of course!
Most importantly, I give myself grace. Parenting a one-year-old is hard, and I’m learning alongside my child. These moments of anger are not failures—they’re opportunities to teach comfort, safety, and love.
How to Handle Anger with My One-Year-Old I am still learning. How about you?
