Parents are the most valuable treasures we can have in our lifetime. The relationship between us, as children and parents is deeply rooted and can’t uproot easily, such a bond. As we grow, we witness them aging too, and it can be such a heart-aching experience. Grey hairs, trembling hands, and wrinkling skin are the physical signs we see. But we can’t help it, and we must accept this universal truth: we are all subject to decay—slowly, invisibly, but inevitably.
So, how can I lower my pain and suffering, I sometimes wonder. I recall something Jordan Peterson once mentioned in a video: the only method to ease this suffering is to “count.” No one knows how many days are left, not for us, nor for our parents. The best thing we can do is make the most of our time. No time for unnecessary drama, lies, or hatred.
I deeply feel my parents, especially since I am thousands of miles away. My aging parents, I can’t be with them at least once a year, and I can’t be there when they are sick. But the one thing I can do, and the best thing I can offer, to them is kind words. Words are such a powerful tool—they can soak someone’s heart in a sea of compassion or set it on fire. So, I always do my best to touch their hearts with kindness. It’s the only thing, yet the most powerful thing, I can give.
I think that the idea of using words to show love and affection is one of the most important and meaningful ways to connect.
How do you engage with your aging parents?
