The scene I am having every Saturday morning is an apple of my eye. “Light golf playing grey headed souls” is a nice view to have. Every Saturday when we were passing by these souls, I whisper to my husband “let’s grow old together. Simultaneously many thoughts invade my mind, How would be their relationship with their matured children. Are they totally detached from their children? How do they have such free “me times”. These types of questions might be odd for the people who are living other side of the world. I have my roots in Sri Lanka so I experienced adults who lost their individual space.
Everyone is dreaming a life without barriers. We all love to fly freely. Parents had played a tiresome match in their spring time. I think they need a rest and absolutely they are entitled to have it. Sometimes it is not an easy task to balance two different generations. The generation gap might create some issues, whether you cohabiting with them or living separate as a family. Whatever the case some common thoughts are always there.
Rather than treating them as parents we can treat them as roommates. It’s better to learn compromise rather than yelling at. Just sharing a meal, having a friendly talks are the best things to have.
Respecting their life style. Neither you nor your parents have good or bad life styles, one’s lifestyle is a choice made by himself. We have no fair foundation to judge them. They may love to have freedom. Throughout the time they have sacrificed, some sacrifices might be unimaginable, however they had to. It’s time us to give them a chance to feel what they need. It’s paying a gratitude.
Becoming more independent. Once you step in to the world you see more, you feel more. Your perspective regarding some areas are getting wide. It is something parents ask from us. Some volunteer work and any positive social engagements are great ways for you to mingle with the society. More independence more responsibilities.
love to hear you something interesting from the other side of the world. How do you maintain your relationship with your parents as an adult? Do they enjoy their free space? Do they have something like that exactly?
